„You talk too much,“ you interjected, as I finally managed to draw between two sets of air, so that although I said the sentence before your throw to the end, but the one I wanted to follow, somewhere between will and act, vanished. Automatically, I thought, what that meant to me, if you meant that I talk too much. Granted, after my first reflex was to fold my arms across my chest, narrowing my eyes and thinking, „Well, and now I’m not saying anything anymore. That’s what you have now. “
Logically, I could not pronounce it, otherwise I would have contradicted myself and led my project ad absurdum. So, I hid the stubborn kid in me carefully in his playroom, thinking. Well, reasonable. As reasonable as it was possible under the circumstances.
Of course, I cannot deny that I like to talk. Especially when it comes to topics in which I am convinced that I can contribute something. But what does it contribute to something? I would say that’s something, in this case, a statement by which anyone can gain insight. However, I would have to be informed beforehand about the level of knowledge of all listeners. But, let’s face it, how many words actually serve to pass on the information? Is not most of the talking in talking for the sake of speaking. Watzlawick describes it more positively by saying that around 90% of our conversations are for relationship work, thus manifesting the desire to interact and stay in interaction. In the end, nothing but hot air. Is that what you mean when you say I’m talking too much? Is it too much to demand attention and togetherness? In short, I’m getting on your nerves, am I annoying you? Logically, the question then immediately follows, why do not you say it? Of course, „you talk too much“ sounds nicer than „you get on my nerves“. And as we know, nowhere so much is said to be conglomerated, as in so-called relationships.
We are not only judged by our deeds, but also by every unnecessary word that we speak, comes to mind involuntarily, analogously the statement of Ferdinand Ebner, who, along with Martin Buber, was a representative of dialogic thinking, in his work „Das Word and spiritual realities „. This could be a gain for one or the other, because he had previously heard neither of said gentlemen, nor of that philosophical direction. What can be clarified by the double-edged claim of „gaining knowledge“, because it may well be one, but one that is imposed on one, because he is simply uninteresting and irrelevant to the listener. In this sense, any arbitrary utterance is a compulsion not to seek the evil word of rape. Just as I now impose my thoughts on the „too much“ of talking.
„Judged by every unnecessary word,“ which may mean nothing other than „be careful with your words,“ that is, demand attention and togetherness. „Be careful with me!“
Mindfulness, especially for people who are close to you, because „At home is where you do not have to explain yourself“. And so sometimes it would be good to explain a little less now and then or even a little more often, because it is not necessary for you, because you understand me and accept me as I am, without any unnecessary explanation, without any talk too much.